Sugarry Friend

This post goes out to my my kiddo friend (my childhood buddy). A friend as old as my bad thoughts. A friend since past 16 SUPERB years. Our friendship has been the strangest relationship in this world. We can anytime fail Rob Reine, the director of “When Harry Met Sally” by proving that yes! “A girl ‘nd a guy can be friends. In fact, best friends!” But this sensitive and totally argumentative topic shall be dealt some other time. For know, let’s talk about my friend :P Our friendship as I said was strange. We never exchanged gifts or cards on occasions. But I still remember the four wishes, in chronological order, every year were:

Him: “Happy Valentines! Bhagwan jaldi tujhe koi de de taaki mujhe chutkara mil jaaye”
Me: “Haan please! I don’t want to be wished by you either. Wo bhi sabse pehle?No way!".

Me: “Happy B’day! Bhagwan teri umar bhi mujhe de de. Oops! Teri meri ki galti ho gayi. Adjust kar li yaar.”
Him: “Tujhe kya karna itna jee k agar main hi na raha”Me: "Tu jab nahi hoga tab hi to jee paongi. Abhi to pakk rahi hun wo be tere bud-day waale din."

Him: “Badhai ho! Aaj aapne dharti pe ek aur saal nikal hi liya. Succesful lakdi! Waise Dharti Maa ko bhi badhai ho. Aakhir ab ek aur saal kam reh gaya na tera bojh uthane ka.”
Me: “Hunh! Jab main nahi hongi na tab tujhe pata chalega main kitni achhi hun” (Yeah Yeah !! I was a big time senti actor since my childhood days)

Me: “It’s Friendship’s Day tomorrow!”
Him: “Tujhe kya achaar daalna hai?”
Me: “Abe teez nahi hai jo achaar daalun. Kal doston ko thank you bolte hai. I’ll wish you early morning before I go to school. Don’t you dare go before meeting me warna achha nahi hoga”
Him: “Hunh! Isn’t it cool?”
Me: “Yeah! The idea na?”
Him: “No! Everyday, throughout the year, you just wish to come over to my house at night and kill me. And on this very day, you feel like thanking me.”
Me: “Whatever!”
Him: “Furrrrrrrrrr”

So we grew up, fighting fighting and finally parting. We have always tried to remain in touch. But know we realize that then, we had ourselves cropped the differences. Firstly, the physical difference. Distance did come between us. A difference between an engineering student and a commerce student’s thought. Then the difference of life styles of an all times hostler to a non-hostler. Moreover, destiny had something more. Difference between two people, difference between two souls - a change in emotions, in proirties. Meeting him again, say months, made me realize that now a days it has started hurting when I stress my facial muscles and jaw bones to smile. But then I had fun in the sun. (Its damn hot here) I loved it when he noticed that ‘his’ smile girl has become a ‘cry baby’. He pampered me with those good words! (I Love being pampered :D) We even fought :D I realized it’s all my fault that I maintained a distance.
But then not all days are bad...
So now I think of that scene from "When Harry Met Sally" where Harry Burns tells Sally Albright,
"I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."

I just wanna make sure you get that Buckingham Palace of yours. :)

We had joy we had fun...
...We had seasons in the sun!

Read more...

Things that mothers teach their daughters

Mom and me are best friends - in honest opinion more than just best friends. The golden rule to keep the friendship stay best forever was taught by Mom and it is: "You might forget to tell somethings to your best friend, but never forget that you need to be honest." So following that I have seen life, and everytime I take a wise decision, I say to myself - well! Momma said so :)
This post is NOT an inspiration post after watching Forest Gump. It is a collection to be passed on to every daughter :-)
Feminism \m/

My root teaching was:
` Before you do anything, think! Think that you're not just responsible to yourself, but to your family, to a nation where a billion people live.
Yes, a billion people can hold me responsible for anything I do. It might not seem tough for me, but it could be worse to many. I might miss the point so think, think responsibily. Another talisman that I have always loved is:
` Love when you're ready and not when you're lonely.
So totally true! It is so hard to not fall for just anyone when you"re lonely _ specially after a breakup> :) All of us know that! The best I feel is to hold on to people you know would understand you no matter what:
` Parents have the hearts to love you when you're at your worst and arms to hold you when you're at your weakest.
Everyone knows this but still you should remember it and never ever say that:
` Women are Crazy Men Are Stupid
I so agree and shall always remember:
` Ever notice that people who spend money on beer, cigarettes and lottery tickets are always complaining about being broke and not feeling well?
Also,
` Don’t do drugs ’cause you can find the same effect just by standing up really fast.
:) :) :) Goes out to all those who hand their life to things that they should own and not otherwise.
I am sure someday I will use your:
` No man is perfect — you just have to find one whose quirks you can live with.
Ever thought that what you say could be golden:
` If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.
And and, I remember when I would be sad thinking Life is just a struggle, you would tell me:
` You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy.
I have strggled to realize that life is not just hard days, it's about conquering such days to find happiness. I remember you telling me how when one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
` Because in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years that will matter.
Yes, so the most precious thing we have is life, yet it has absolutely no trade-in value.
You made me see positives in life. In my sad days, you were my unspoken untalked of strength. You taught me how not to run in circles ort shout, when in doubt.
` Fall over seven times, but get up eight.
Last but not surely not the least, I wish to share some thing I think has made me a better person:
` This too shall pass.

And something I have learnt on my own and shall be passed on ;) is:
` Don't look for a boyfriend who would be best, look for a boy who would be your best friend.

Mom, I look back on my childhood and thank the stars above. For everything you gave me, but mostly for your love. :-) Your words have been a source of strength and hope to me whenever life became a roller coaster. Clearly, you're the bank where I deposited all my pains and you converted them and gave a return of happiness. It is just because of you that,

Everyday I beat my own previous record for number of consecutive days I’ve had Life!

P.S. I would love to add more to the list, let it be universal Mother Daughter teachings!

Read more...